Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Family restrictions are for GooD or BaD ?

Hello fellas

Elders(Parents) put restrictions on their children thinking only about their good.
But children is like an inexperienced organism 
who got his whole life ahead to live ,
life full of strange things,unexpected trend(of which parents are completely unaware).


The point to be notice is
Child is like blank Hard Disk,which fills itself with the knowledge,experience love,hatred  
 SO & SO stuff from both the outer world(everything beside family) and inner world(family).


Question is-
Why do children happen to think that they are in cage or something like that
specially those who live in family which follow certain rules,which had been set by the older ones of the family.


Answer is-
Children lives in both the
 "Outer world"(school, neighborhood,playground,everything except family) & "Inner world"(family).
 Inner world puts restriction in order to make future safe according to its own experience.
Outer world in which child is in contact is full of ones similar to him.
which enhance the urge of the child to go beyond the boundations( put by inner world(family))
as he gets company there to do all those things of which he was unknown and prohibited for long.


But what will it result ?
It may result in a good experience or may be a bad one.
and
If it results in a bad one
then child will understand that it is good to follow the elders
and will understand that"elders do things only for the benefit of younger ones"
But if somehow it results in a good one(which could be due to lack of skills in family or due to some new stuff of which child family is completely unaware)
then he will keep doing  until he gets a bad one(experience)
then he will understand the same one day that
"elders do things only for the benefit of younger ones"


I think Parents should be in touch with outer world (in which their child is going)
just to keep themselves aware if things happening in there
because it will give them upper-hand to set rules for their developing child in better way
so that child never feels like that 
he is living a life of an animal or something bound in some boundaries


so parents,guardians,elder ones or anyone who take care or want to take care
my request is 
before putting any restriction on child 
please check and analyse the environment where your child is suppose to be
because if you do
only then you can lead your child as you want.








If there is any mistake, please forgive me :-)
I welcome your views with open heart

Thank You
!!!...Skand GupT...!!!


1 comment:

  1. with all this gyan in you..I guess you are gonna be a great parent :) Also, thanx for sharing.

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